A Balanced Life
“I’m not Wonder Woman.” She told me – she being a diminutive, blonde woman in her fifties. Honestly, I never considered for a second that she was. She seemed to have a need to tell me she wasn’t Wonder Woman to excuse herself from the responsibility she felt she had for holding up her end of the world. It made me wonder why. Why would anyone have a need to explain that? She appeared to be struggling with the fact that she was not able to solve all of the problems of all of the people in her life. I meet a lot of people like this. Sometimes I think I do this. How completely out of balance is it to believe one has the responsibility of God?
When one comes to this point, the point where the world’s problems are resting on one’s shoulders, it’s time to clarify, organize, and sort out what can be done. That requires awareness and focus. Rebalancing life takes some effort and practice. We must acknowledge our own lack of control over certain things and relinquish our sense of ownership of them. We must stop telling ourselves stories about our power and accept that we lack the control over those things.
Keeping things in balance requires that we maintain a sense of perspective that allows us to see things as they truly are. At work that may mean focusing on what you can do and letting go of what you cannot. Balance for me means including time to contemplate, relax, imagine, exercise, and sleep. Identifying the activities and ways to include those things takes time and consideration but having a plan and understanding the components required to balance myself makes it doable.
Every single morning when the alarm clock sounds the challenge is on. A new day offers an opportunity to try out something different to satisfy one’s need for balance. What do you need in your life to feel calm and even? What areas can you identify that need shifting?
This just sounds so easy on paper (or the screen) but it is a daily challenge to keep things smooth and balanced. Do not ignore the sound of doubt in your mind when things begin to feel out of kilter. Think carefully and honestly about what you need to do to maintain or rebalance your life.